Thursday, July 28, 2011

One More Step.

We know that every advertisement we see has been airbrushed and touched up. We know that even though the ad is there to advertise the product and show us what the product can do, the results we are seeing are most likely fake from digital enhancements. We know that there is really no way to get what that girl in the picture has, even if I do buy the product. And maybe I shouldn’t say we but instead I. I know these things. Do you?

When I am checking out at the grocery store and am surrounded by magazines, or when I see a commercial on TV, I am known to say something about how what we are looking at isn’t real. Those women have been digital enhanced, airbrushed, and who knows what else to present the ‘perfect’ yet unattainable picture, planting false beliefs and unrealistic expectations of what women should look like.

I don’t hold back my comments depending on who I am with, guys get it just as much as my little sister. The part that surprises me is that after I remind them that all the pictures they are looking at are fake, not real, airbrushed and digitally enhanced they will often say “really?” Or “all of them?” Or even, “No! I am sure she really looks like that.” This tells me that even though I have dived into the world of digital enhancements to learn what the truth is, not everyone has and these advertisements continue to plant the lie that what they are seeing is the expectation of what a woman should look like.

I believe becoming educated about advertising and their dirty little tricks is empowering to women. I know it helps me. It helps me when I can tell myself...she doesn’t really look like that. She does have some wrinkles and it’s OK that I have wrinkles. Wrinkles are natural. Most of the articles I read on this subject are aimed at the consumer, educating the consumer on what goes on in the advertising world. Well I think that something needs to change on the advertising end. How far can they take this manipulation of the female body before we say enough is enough?

Shine’s recent article, L’Oreal ads for Julia Roberts and Christy Turlington banned for airbrushing, explains that two different L’Oreal ads were banned by The British Advertising Standards Authority (ASA) after L’Oreal was unable to provide un-airbrushed shots. Advertising Standards Authority chief executive, Guy Parker said, “Advertisers must be able to provide appropriate material to us to demonstrate what retouching they’ve done in the even we question them, and mustn’t mislead. In this event, L’Oreal didn’t provide us with the evidence so we were left with no choice but to uphold the complaint.” Or in others words, the advertisement was banned from the UK.

Can you even imagine what it would be like if advertisers actually had to show us exactly what we would be getting from their product in their advertisements? I can’t quite picture that world yet, but I would like to see some of these advertisements getting banned in the US. One step at a time.

In the article they also discussed that the reason L’Oreal could not provide un-airbrushed pictures was because in Julia Roberts’ contract it stated that no un-airbrushed picture shots can be released. Now I have no idea who wrote this contract, maybe L’Oreal and maybe Julia Robert’s agent. Who knows? And I doubt I would be able to guess the true intent behind either party adding this statement to the contract. But I do hope that it isn’t because Julia Roberts doesn’t want to show people what she really looks like. Can you imagine? One of the most recognizable faces doesn’t want people to see who she really is? I can’t say I blame her. If I were in her shoes, and pictures could be found everywhere of me with flawless skin (still fake, but flawless none the less), I can’t say I wouldn’t want the ‘truth’ to get out, and disappoint so many people who think I really looked like that. The truth is I think Julia Roberts is beautiful, but not for her fake flawless skin. I think her smile is beautiful. I think her laugh is beautiful. And I think the way she radiates is beautiful.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Bedrooms, Stability, and Goodbyes.

Sometimes it takes losing something to realize how important that thing is in your life. And the last two months I lost a few things that I just hadn't realized their importance in my life.

First off. My room. My space. My sanity. I have come to the conclusion that having a space that you can call your own is not something that is just nice to have but is essential to your well being. For the last two months the only place that has been mine is my car. Some of you know my housing situation... let's keep it short and say not only have I had to move three times in the last three months, but if you can picture Harry Potter's under the stairs bedroom and if you can imagine two people in there for two months then you can see where I have been living. Like I said there wasn't a lot of my space, and while I was able to keep a fairly positive mood, at the end it all came crashing down. Knowing where I belong, that I belong, that I am in the right place, those things are essential. I am so thankful for my bedroom. Not a big bedroom. Not a beautiful bedroom. Just my bedroom. I realized I don't need much but I do need a bedroom. I need a place to put my things, I need privacy, I need space. I wish I could say this was the first time I had experienced this, but its not. One time my bedroom was the living room and my closet was the front closet. That was hard too. I think one of the reasons we love to come home after a vacation is because we come home to a space that is ours. I can't completely explain why it is important, but trust me it is. Your space is precious. I wonder how being married will affect this concept. Oh well I won't have to worry about that for a while.

Second: stability. This is something you don't even realize is there when it is, but as soon as it leaves it becomes the most important thing to have. I am not sure if there is more to say about that. It becomes so important I would be willing to take a job that I am overqualified for just to have stability. I would be willing to let go of something great to feel more stable, and I even bet I won't be able to feel more stable for a few weeks. Ugh. I guess it will be worth it in the long run. At least that is what I keep telling myself. I had no idea I would be willing to sacrifice so much for stability and yet I am still seeking it in so many ways.

And sometimes you say goodbye to something even when you know how good it is, even when you do realize how much it means to you. Sometimes you say goodbye to protect yourself. Is that selfish? I don't think so. I think it is important to take care of yourself. And for so long I would sacrifice myself instead of saying goodbye.

I am not exactly sure what this post is suppose to be. But like life, it is what it is.